I am at Starbucks (as usual) planning for the upcoming weeks. This week is filled with on-site visits with principals working on everything from inter-rater reliability with formative observations, debriefing conversations, PLCs, planning for next year, etc…
Today I will be doing a training on Tough Kids for first year teachers. Think about the “tough kids” in your world… Do we, as teachers, ever (unintentionally) make them tougher?
Stop and ponder the emotions you are feeling when you are reprimanding the same kid for the upteenth time… Anger, frustration, helplessness…. The interesting thing is that students when being reprimanded by their teacher for the upteenth time feel these same emotions. This is a situation called parallel processing. Only, we, the adults, can break this cycle. Stop for a moment. When you interact with these students, try to keep in mind your positive expectations. HOW would this look??? HOW would this sound?
Try using phrases that lead to internalization of behaviors rather than external directives:
|What are some things…||You did this and this…|
|How might you…||You had better…!|
|What could you…||This is what needs…|
|What are some strengths..||You’re good at…|
|What problems might you..||You’re going to run into…|